So I’ve been thinking . . . what does it really mean to be considerate?
In general, I consider myself a sort of kind and somewhat thoughtful person. I like to do things for other people, and I believe in compassion and kindness.
This past weekend, a friend of mine did something for me and I thanked him and remarked how considerate he is. That word considerate stuck with me. Because, while I am blanking on what exactly he did, I remember thinking it was more than thoughtful, it was considerate because he considered me and what I might like.
So what does it mean to be considerate? To me, it’s taking into account someone else’s feelings or needs. Merriam-Webster’s defines considerate as: Thoughtful of the rights and feelings of others. I like the addition of “rights.”
And being considerate is different than being thoughtful. When a friend gets me something she saw that reminds her of me, that’s being thoughtful. And it’s lovely. Thoughtfulness is a great characteristic.
I’ve been thoughtful. But how often have I considered someone’s feelings, let alone rights? I’m not sure it’s been that often. I wondered, is it enough to be thoughtful? How can I be considerate?
And when I think about what is going on in the world today, all around us, maybe other people have forgotten what it’s like to be considerate. Maybe consideration is what is missing from our dialogues.
I’ve talked about spreading love and kindness. I try to practice compassion. I think now I will add being considerate with my words and my actions.
And another thing (or two or eight) . . .
- Things considerate people don’t do.
- For your consideration. I had chills when I watched and read this.
- My kind of home—and living situation.
- Not sure how I missed this before but OH MY GOD! One of my top ten favorite movies and one of my top favorite actors.
- Just in time for World Emoji Day on July 17. (Yes, this is a real thing).
- This is happening—and I can NOT wait.
- And I’m excited for this.
- Because this made me smile.
I’ve been reading . . . Things Fall Apart—finally finished it. Ok, so here’s the thing with this book. It’s not an easy read. I don’t mean it’s challenging or difficult, it’s just not easy to get into. I wasn’t drawn in, and I didn’t think, “I can’t wait to read this.” It’s a slow read. But if you are patient and stick with it, you will be rewarded. There is a point near the end where it all comes together and you realize, wow, this is how it all falls apart. Besides t
I’ve been watching . . . Xanadu. Not the movie but the play. Hilarious, delightful, and just plain fun. I laughed so much and left the play in such a good mood. The play was campy but good campy. It was over the top but good over the top. So now of course . . .
I’ve been listening to . . . the soundtrack to Xanadu. Have to believe we are magic . . . wow, the songs take me back. Thanks ELO, Jeff Lynne, and Olivia!
Have a wonderful weekend!
(Image from the movie For Your Consideration found here.)